The 7 Habits of Effective People

Habit 1: Be Proactive
" Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits and that's why it comes first. It say's, " I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I'm responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am in the driver's seat of my destiny, not just a passenger." Sorry but i don't need any part time people in my life. You're either with me or you're not. You can't just come and go when you please. What is proactive? Proactive is when you take responsibility on our actions. You know that life have ups and downs but you know it's not your fault and you fight it. Be yourself because an original is worth more than a copy. Happiness dose not depend on what you have or who's with you. It depends on how you think. It takes 21 days to make or break a habit. Accept your responsibility for your actions. Things are what they are when image different and make it seem wrong. Love harder to feel what pain really is.
Habit 2 : Begin with the end in mind.
" Habit 2 control your own destiny or someone else will." This means that I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am an important part of my classroom. I look for ways to be a good citizen. Sometimes following your heart means thinking outside the box. Our deepest fear is the one that makes us strong everyday. You control your emotions and your destiny. Don't let others ruin that for you. Make your move if someone is don't let any thing get in your way. I'm not fighting i'm just explaining way i'm right. Life is to short to worry about stupid things. Have fun, and don't let people bring you down. Yeah sometimes we expect more form others but it's because we gave then more then they gave us.
Habit : 3 Put First Things First.
" Habit 3 Organize and execute around priorities." This means that thing you want to think that is important to you have them in mind to know that it's your important thing to do. Let them miss you. sometimes when you are available , they take you for granted because they think you'll always stay. If one day you are trapped and don't know what to do do what makes you happy, unless you are trying to make them happy and not yourself. Put yourself first. Keep your goals first in mind to accomplish them. And so nothing what get in your way. Take responsibility for your actions. Follow your plans.
Habit :4 Think Win-Win
" Habit 4 Think win -win or no deal." This means that  when you know that you will win you will because victory always needs faith. Faith will never let you down no matter where you are. People who don't like you never win. Because negative energy at the end will need cost. Winning is a really good emotion to feel. Why? Because you went though a lot and finally you get paid by winning. You didn't let people down.
Habit: 6 Synthesize
" Habit 6 The whole is greater than the sum of its parts (1+1=3 )"
The outcome of anything is better than having the small parts of the solution. I value other people's strengths and learn from them.  I get along well with others, even people who are different from me.  I work well in groups.  I seek out other people's ideas to solve problems because I know that by teaming with others we can create better solutions than any one of us alone.  I am humble. To put it simply, synergy means “two heads are better than one.” Synergize is the habit of creative cooperation. It is teamwork, open-mindedness, and the adventure of finding new solutions to old problems. But it doesn’t just happen on its own. It’s a process, and through that process, people bring all their personal experience and expertise to the table. Together, they can produce far better results that they could individually. Synergy lets us discover jointly things we are much less likely to discover by ourselves. It is the idea that the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. One plus one equals three, or six, or sixty–you name it.
Habit: Sharpen the saw
" Habit 7 Four dimensions of self renewable: physical, mental, spiritual, social/emotional." Sharpening The Saw is an ongoing process of personal change -- not something you can binge -- like your favorite TV show (which I sometimes do). You need to define your own balanced, four-dimensional life to be successful! If you are a leader, I believe part of your role is to help the people who report into you and/or look up to you (your family), explore these dimensions and establish goals for themselves.

We all have busy lifestyles; therefore it's no surprise we have to insert Sharpen The Saw into our Time Management best practices and make it part of our Quadrant II priorities (Habit 3). Our future success and ongoing reputation depends on us taking action. I've seen students have great success with this concept.
Stephen says, "It means exercising all four dimensions of our nature, regularly and consistently in a wise and balanced way. To do this we have to be proactive." I love the words exercise and balance. Proactive means we have to plan for it -- to put it in our schedule and protect the time (Quadrant II), for all 4 of the above mentioned dimensions.Self improvement takes time -- just like working out and getting fit. Stephen sees self-improvement as a never-ending upward spiral of 'Learn, Commit, Do'. Personally I see it as a never-ending spiral of 'Commit, Learn, Do.' No matter what your preference of order of those three words, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is something you have to be mindful of and continually practice.When you begin working out, a trainer will help you receive maximum benefit and minimize injury. In the same vein, a personal coach will help guide your personal change and keep you on track.What Is Your Purpose? What Are You Committed To?
If you work with a personal coach, get them to help you define what your motivator is. What do you want to do / be? What are your values? How do your core competencies need to migrate? What inspires you? How can you live with purpose and integrity... following our values.
Reflection:
There is a gap between stimulus and response, and the key to both our growth and happiness is how we use that space. Do we respond to situations positively, proactively? Are we taking control of our own lives?Meditating on this idea led Covey to start deep communication with his wife, including more and more discussion of their inner worlds. It was a time of inner discovery.They developed two ground rules. First, "no probing," just empathize. Probing was too invasive. The second was when it hurt too much, quit for the day.The most difficult and most fruitful part of this communication came when the vulnerability of each person was touched. They discovered a new sense of reverence for each other. They discovered that even seemingly truthful things often have roots in deep emotional experiences. To deal with the superficial trivia without seeing the deeper, more tender issues is to trample on the sacred ground of another's heart.The ability to use wisely the gap between stimulus and response, to exercise the four unique endowments of our human nature, empowers us from the inside out. (The four endowments are self-awareness, imagination, conscience, and independent will. See the summary of Habit 1 - Be Proactive.)By understanding the role of scripting, we understand the transcendent power in a strong intergenerational family. An effectively interdependent family of children, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins can be a powerful force in helping people have a sense of who they are, where they came from and what they stand for."There are only two lasting bequests we can give our children. One is roots, the other wings."
- Anonymous.We should make a personal goal of becoming a "transition person," a person who changes the scripts transferred to the next generation from negative to positive by being proactive. This should be part of our personal mission statement. A tendency that has run through a family for generations can stop with one person.Anwar Sadat, the former President of Egypt, was a powerful transition person for peace in the Middle East. Sadat said, "He who cannot change the very fabric of his thought will never be able to change reality, and will never, therefore, make any progress."Real change comes from the inside out. Amiel said, "Only these truths... which have become ourselves... are really our life... So long as we are able to distinguish any space whatever between truth and us we remain outside it. To become divine is then the aim of life.... It is no longer outside us, now in a sense even in us, but we are it, and it is we."To achieve unity with ourselves, our loved ones, our friends, and our working associates, is the highest, best, and most delicious fruit of the Seven Habits.Building a character of total integrity and living the life of love and service that creates such unity isn't easy, but it's plausible. If we start with the daily private victory and work from the inside out, results will surely come.